Kink and Fetish Therapy

Judgement-free Kink-Affirming Therapy

Embrace Your Fetish and Kink

Despite the secrecy and shame that often surrounds kinks and fetishes, they are remarkably common and can be a normal part of a happy and healthy sexual relationship. 

Fetish therapy can be a great way to help you (or your partner) overcome feelings of confusion, embarrassment, or uncertainty and feel at home with your sexual interests.

What is Kink?

Kink refers to ‘non-conventional’ sexual practices or fantasies. While a fetish is a sexual response to an object or body part that isn’t typically considered sexual.

Certainly, kink and fetishes can be viewed as sexual practices outside of what society wants to declare as acceptable, but we know that sexual interests exist on a wide spectrum with a wide range of behaviours.

The revelation of these fantasies, desires, and attractions may disrupt relationships and keeping them a secret can lead to feelings of shame, isolation, and worthlessness. But it doesn’t have to be this way. With the proper support, communication, and understanding, embracing our kinks can lead to an enriching and gratifying sexual dynamic.

Kink Affirming Therapy and Fetish Therapy Can Help You Find Your Way

If you or your partner are turned on by something “out of the ordinary,” therapy can be a valuable tool for working through the various things you may feel.

Individually, kink-affirming therapy or fetish therapy can help you understand your feelings, moving beyond what is holding you back and teaching you valuable ways to share and express your most intimate desires. If you are concerned that your desires and fantasies are born from an unhealthy place, therapy can help you address the underlying cause allowing you to regain control of your most intimate moments.

For partners, kink-affirming therapy and fetish therapy can open the lines of communication, creating a safe space to share what is arousing or unsettling, potentially finding common ground along the way.

Maybe at times, people are aroused by things they’d never actually want to try. Therapy can be a great way to learn how to talk and share in a way that feels comfortable and safe for everyone.

Tri Health Clinic Kink and Fetish Therapy

At Tri Health Clinic, we understand that human sexuality is made up of a whole range of tastes and attractions, and each person deserves to feel comfortable and safe with their desires and fantasies. This is why we take a holistic approach to kink and fetish therapy, addressing the mental, emotional, behavioural, and relationship factors that contribute to your sexual health and sense of well-being.

We base our therapies and treatments on four major principles (education, self-knowledge, changing behaviours, and tracking change), tailoring each one to meet your unique personal need.

We focus on education as a means to identify and work through sexual myths and misconceptions that may be holding you back from experiencing a truly gratifying and fulfilling sex life. And while kink and fetishes may be viewed as “atypical,” they are far from uncommon and getting beyond your concerns or shame requires an understanding of who you are and how your sexual proclivities fit into your life as a whole. Addressing your feelings (and those of your partner) is the only way to move forward.

From there, we will identify strategies for growing your skillset, helping to develop the emotional and interpersonal skills you may be missing, and allowing you to let go of behaviours and coping strategies that are no longer serving you.

Concerning yourself with whether or not you are “normal” or worrying about whether or not you are “fixed” is counterproductive and may take you out of the essential work you are trying to do. We use questionnaires to track changes and progress for you and work with you to ensure you meet your therapy goals.

Kink and Ethical Non-Monogamy Resources

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Here’s How the Tri Health Clinic Can Help Navigate Fetish or Kink

  • We can help you better understand a kink or fetish, eliminating possible shame or embarrassment
  • We can help you understand who you are, emphasizing your strengths, so you can confidently look more deeply at the areas that upset you
  • We can work with you and your partner to open or improve the lines of communication, enabling you both to navigate the changes in the sexual dynamic
  • We can help you change thoughts and behaviours that are preventing you from fully exploring your kink or fetish in a way that makes sense to you and your sex life.

Download the Tri Health Clinic's Free eBook

Discover the key to optimal sexual health with our free ebook! Packed with expert advice and practical tips, this comprehensive guide will empower you to take control of your sexual well-being. Download now and embark on a journey towards a fulfilling and vibrant intimate life.

The Sexual Response Cycle Handout

All the information from our eBook compressed into a bite-sized version.

Videos

Everything You Need To Know About Kink | Interview ft. Stefani Goerlich

Kink Informed on the Leather Couch with Stefani Goerlich

Book Recommendations

Desire: Desire: An Inclusive Guide to Navigating Libido Differences in Relationships

A radically inclusive, sex-positive guide to managing the inevitable libido differences in our relationships, authored by two certified sex therapists who are passionate about good sex

Desire invites readers of all ages, genders, sexual orientations, and relationship structures to shed the shame and misinformation that surround the topic of sex and instead learn from 2 certified sex therapists about how libido really works. Desire differences are one of the most common relationship issues, yet, with fewer than 1,100 certified sex therapists in the country, it can be difficult to find help. This essential book breaks the mold of the sex self-help genre, which typically focuses only on cisgender women. 

The Guide to Getting It On

This guide replaces taboos with techniques and provides safe, practical advice for improving your sexual relationships. It all comes down to communication and this is one book that has no problem with telling it how it is.

Anyone who says “Why does a book on sex need a new edition?” needs to throw away their flip phone. Today’s young adults are the first generation who began watching the most explicit porn in history on their phones in Middle School. They have very different expectations and needs from a book on sex, and those needs are changing as rapidly as technology is changing. There have been hundreds of studies done in the past four years on everything from female orgasms to how semen influences a woman’s immune system to not kill sperm. You’ll find it all in this new edition of The Guide. And the new chapter on consent will hopefully do a much better job of helping you understand what consent is and isn’t than Title IX with its strange little slogans.

opening up

Opening Up: A guide to creating and sustaining open relationships

Relationship expert and bestselling author Tristan Taormino offers a bold new strategy for creating loving, lasting relationships. Drawing on in-depth interviews with over a hundred women and men, Opening Up explores the real-life benefits and challenges of all styles of open relationships — from partnered non-monogamy to solo polyamory. With her refreshingly down-to-earth style and sharp wit, Taormino offers solutions for making an open relationship work, including tips on dealing with jealousy, negotiating boundaries, finding community, parenting and time management. Opening Up will change the way you think about intimacy.

ethical slut

The Ethical Slut: A practical guide to polyamory, open relationships, and other freedoms in sex and love

For 20 years The Ethical Slut—widely known as the “Poly Bible”—has dispelled myths and showed curious readers how to maintain a successful polyamorous lifestyle through open communication, emotional honesty, and safer sex practices. The third edition of this timeless guide to the ethics of relationships, communication, and sex has been revised to include:

• Interviews with poly millennials (young people who have grown up without the prejudices their elders encountered regarding gender, orientation, sexuality, and relationships)
• Tributes to polyamory pioneers
• Tools for conflict resolution and instructions on how to improve interpersonal dynamics
• New sidebars on topics such as asexuality, sex workers, LGBTQ terminology, and ways polys can connect and thrive

The authors also include new content addressing nontraditional relationships beyond the polyamorous paradigm of “more than two”: couples who don’t live together, couples who don’t have sex with each other, nonparallel arrangements, couples with widely divergent sex styles, power disparities, and cross-orientation relationships, while utilizing nonbinary gender language and new terms that have come into common usage since the last edition.

polysecure

Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and Consensual Nonmonogamy

Attachment theory has entered the mainstream, but most discussions focus on how we can cultivate secure monogamous relationships. What if, like many people, you’re striving for secure, happy attachments with more than one partner? Polyamorous psychotherapist Jessica Fern breaks new ground by extending attachment theory into the realm of consensual nonmonogamy. Using her nested model of attachment and trauma, she expands our understanding of how emotional experiences can influence our relationships. Then, she sets out six specific strategies to help you move toward secure attachments in your multiple relationships. Polysecure is both a trailblazing theoretical treatise and a practical guide.

 

The Leather Couch 

The text offers a 101-style introduction to BDSM before delving into topics ranging from intersectionality within the kink community, to conducting a kink-affirming risk assessment and how to discern between domestic violence and consensual power-exchange. The author explores differential diagnoses and clinical concerns that are relevant to health care providers including social workers and therapists as well as primary care physicians and sex educators. Interwoven throughout with real-world case studies, each chapter presents practical suggestions, tools, and handouts the reader can use to inform their practice and serve clients in ways that meet the needs of each individual, couple, or partnership.

These resources are intended as a compliment to therapy under the guidance of a trained sex therapist.

TRI HEALTH CLINIC

Contact us today to book a complimentary consultation with our Intake Coordinator to match you to the best therapist for your needs.

We provide Kink and Ethical Non-Monogamy counselling to all of Ontario, including Windsor, London, Guelph, Waterloo, Kitchener, Hamilton, Burlington, Oakville, Mississauga, Brampton, Toronto, Vaughan, Richmond Hill, Markham, Oshawa, Brockville, Kingston, Ottawa.

Email

admin@trihealthclinic.com

Location

Suite 414, 797 Princess Street, Kingston ON

Phone Number

613-929-6518

Intake Coordinator Hours

Monday – Friday 9am-5pm

We take pride in responding within 2 business days or less

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