What is Kink?
Kink refers to ‘non-conventional’ sexual practices or fantasies. While a fetish is a sexual response to an object or body part that isn’t typically considered sexual.
Certainly, kink and fetishes can be viewed as sexual practices outside of what society wants to declare as acceptable, we know that sexual interests exist on a wide spectrum with a wide range of behaviours.
The revelation of these fantasies, desires, and attractions may disrupt relationships and keeping them a secret can lead to feelings of shame, isolation, and worthlessness but it doesn’t have to be this way. With the proper support, communication, and understanding, they can lead to an enriching and gratifying sexual dynamic.
Kink Affirming Therapy and Fetish Therapy Can Help You Find Your Way
If you or your partner is turned on by something “out of the ordinary,” therapy can be a valuable tool for working through the various things you may feel.
Individually, kink-affirming therapy or fetish therapy can help you understand your feelings, moving beyond what is holding you back and teaching you valuable ways to share and express your most intimate desires. If you are concerned that your desires and fantasies are born from an unhealthy place, therapy can help you address the underlying cause allowing you to regain control of your most intimate moments.
For partners, kink-affirming therapy and fetish therapy can open the lines of communication, creating a safe space to share what is arousing or unsettling, potentially finding common ground along the way.
Maybe times, people are aroused by things they’d never actually want to try. Therapy can be a great way to learn how to talk and share in a way that feels comfortable and safe for everyone.
Here’s How Tri Health Clinic Can Help Navigate Fetish or Kink
- We can help you better understand a kink or fetish, eliminating possible shame or embarrassment
- We can help you understand who you are, emphasizing your strengths, so you can confidently look more deeply at the areas that upset you
- We can work with you and your partner to open or improve the lines of communication, enabling you both to navigate the changes in the sexual dynamic
- We can help you change thoughts and behaviours that are preventing you from fully exploring your kink or fetish in a way that makes sense to you and your sex life.
Tri Health Clinic Kink and Fetish Therapy
At Tri Health Clinic, we understand that human sexuality is made up of a whole range of tastes and attractions, and each person deserves to feel comfortable and safe with their desires and fantasies. This is why we take a holistic approach to kink and fetish therapy, addressing the mental, emotional, behavioural, and relationship factors that contribute to your sexual health and sense of well-being.
We base our therapies and treatments on four major principles (education, self-knowledge, changing behaviours, and tracking change), tailoring each one to meet your unique personal need.
We focus on education as a means to identify and work through sexual myths and misconceptions that may be holding you back from experiencing a truly gratifying and fulfilling sex life. And while kink and fetishes may be viewed as “atypical,” they are far from uncommon and getting beyond your concerns or shame requires an understanding of who you are and how your sexual proclivities fit into your life as a whole. Addressing your feelings (and those of your partner) is the only way to move forward.
From there, we will identify strategies for growing your skillset, helping to develop the emotional and interpersonal skills you may be missing, and allowing you to let go of behaviours and coping strategies that are no longer serving you.
Concerning yourself with whether or not you are “normal” or worrying about whether or not you are “fixed” is counterproductive and may take you out of the essential work you are trying to do. We use questionnaires to track changes and progress for you and work with you to ensure you meet your therapy goals.
Learn More About Fetish Therapy
Fetish Therapy Resources
The Guide to Getting It On
This guide replaces taboos with techniques and provides safe, practical advice for improving your sexual relationships. It all comes down to communication and this is one book that has no problem with telling it how it is.
Anyone who says “Why does a book on sex need a new edition?” needs to throw away their flip phone. Today’s young adults are the first generation who began watching the most explicit porn in history on their phones in Middle School. They have very different expectations and needs from a book on sex, and those needs are changing as rapidly as technology is changing. There have been hundreds of studies done in the past four years on everything from female orgasms to how semen influences a woman’s immune system to not kill sperm. You’ll find it all in this new edition of The Guide. And the new chapter on consent will hopefully do a much better job of helping you understand what consent is and isn’t than Title IX with its strange little slogans.
These resources are intended as a compliment to therapy under the guidance of a trained sex therapist.