We provide couples therapy to individuals and couples.
“I love my partner, but I find myself fantasizing about the way things used to be”
“I keep waiting for things to get better in the relationship, but they don’t”
“I’m so lonely”
“I barely recognize myself or my partner in this relationship anymore”
“Can our relationship survive infidelity?”
“At this point, we’re just staying together for the kids”
If any of these sound familiar, then couples therapy might be right for you.
WHAT IS COUPLES THERAPY, EXACTLY?
Couples therapy is when participants in a relationship meet with a therapist to talk through their relationship dynamics. The reasons a couple may choose therapy can vary, including sex therapy, pre-marital counselling, relationship changes, infidelity counselling, intimacy therapy, sexual communication training, sexual dysfunction, and more.
Couples therapy often includes regular meetings with a registered therapist who talks through the concerns of the couple, using science-based principles, like emotion-focused techniques and other holistic approaches.
Here’s a glimpse at the Top 3 treatments used to help couples:
Emotion-Focused Couples Therapy
At Tri Health Clinic, we leverage the power of Emotion-Focused Couples Therapy (EFT), a research-backed approach that delves into the emotional underpinnings of relationship issues. EFT helps couples identify and express their deepest emotions, fostering a secure bond. Through targeted interventions, we guide couples in reshaping negative interaction cycles, creating lasting positive change.
The Gottman Method
Utilizing The Gottman Method, our couples therapy integrates decades of research by Drs. John and Julie Gottman. This evidence-based approach assesses relationship dynamics and provides practical interventions. By focusing on building friendship, managing conflict constructively, and creating shared meaning, couples develop the skills needed for a resilient and enduring connection.
Emotionally-Focused Couples Therapy
Our therapists apply Emotionally-Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT), a well-established method grounded in attachment theory. EFCT works by reshaping patterns of interaction and fostering emotional responsiveness. By helping couples explore and reorganize their emotional responses, we pave the way for secure bonds, creating an atmosphere of safety and trust essential for a thriving relationship.
What to expect from couples therapy at the tri health clinic?
Our approach to couples therapy involves taking the time to help you and your partner identify the root issues in your relationship and areas for improving your connection. We recognize that each relationship is unique. We work closely with our clients to develop tailored solutions leveraging individual strengths and contributions while addressing negative behaviours inhibiting a comfortable, well-rounded relationship. Even if you are in a generally happy and comfortable relationship, we can help you find ways to rekindle the spark and deepen your emotional and physical relationship.
Our experienced therapists can help you and your partner work through these challenges, providing the tools and resources to overcome them and move forward as a couple. We don’t take sides and we don’t use tricks. We worth with each member of the couple to find shared goals.
Our treatments are based 4 major principles:
Let’s face it; sex ed isn’t great. We all have beliefs about sex; unfortunately, many of these beliefs are “sex myths” not “sex facts”. False information about sex can be quite damaging. I will work with you to identify and correct sex myths. Better beliefs about sex help us achieve more enjoyable sex.
It’s important to understand that there are many factors that have led you to where you are today; the good, the bad, and the ugly. Sexual difficulties don’t “just happen”. You can’t change what you don’t understand, so self-knowledge is an important part of change. We also put special focus on the strengths you bring to the table.
Therapy is an active process; change doesn’t happen by sitting in a therapist’s office once a week (although it would nice if that were the case!). In therapy, we will strengthen the skills you already have, build new skills you may be missing, and let go of behaviours that may no longer be working
Change doesn’t happen overnight, but constantly checking in to see “Am I better yet?!” can actually do more harm than good. Using questionnaires, I will track your progress so you don’t have to. We will work together to ensure we stay on track to meet your goals for therapy
Couples Counselling in Ontario
Couples counselling at the Tri Health Clinic is available in-person or online to anyone in Ontario. Online therapy uses a program with secure, encrypted technology to maximize your privacy.
Try Tri Health for the Following
ERECTILE DYSFUNCTION (ED)
“I can’t keep it up”
One-third of men will have ED at some point in their life… and that number goes up to three-quarters of men after the age of 75. Sometimes, ED can be the result of medical issues (cardiovascular health, diabetes, prostate cancer treatments). More frequently, though, ED is caused by a mix of physical, mental, and relationship factors. So for many men, ED doesn’t go away with medication (like Viagra, Cialis, or Levitra). This is because “the little blue pill” doesn’t fix the underlying problems that lead to ED. Treating ED is Dr. Bossio’s specialty.
“I’m embarrassed to tell my partner that I like…”
Sexual interests can vary widely! We don’t know the exact percentage of people with kinks, fetishes, or “atypical sexual interests” out there, but if the Fifty Shades of Gray phenomenon taught us anything, it’s that kinks are extremely common!
However, some people can experience feelings of shame, embarrassment, or confusion when they find themselves (or their partners) turned on by things that seem out of the ordinary. Some people may want to find ways to incorporate their kinks into the bedroom. Alternatively, it’s very common to have kinks that are exciting to think about, but we’d never want to actually do in real life. Kinks exist on a continuum. At the Tri Health Clinic, we can work in a safe, non-judgemental space to prevent atypical sexual interests from getting in the way of an enjoyable, fulfilling sex life.
“It’s not supposed to hurt this much, is it?”
Burning. Cutting. Ripping. Stinging. These are not typically words that bring to mind “good sex”. But, unfortunately, for 8-14% of women, this is a reality (yes, that many women experience chronic genital pain). Genital pain, also known as provoked vestibulodynia (PVD), vulvodynia, or dyspareunia can leave women feeling alone and broken. And no, it’s not all in your head. The leading research on genital pain shows that vulvodynia is best treated using a multidisciplinary approach, which involves pelvic floor physiotherapy, gynaecology, and psychology. As a psychologist at the BC Centre for Vulvar Health, Dr. Bossio gained expertise in the leading treatments for women with genital pain, and have had the pleasure to see countless women improve. We use the same science-based tools at Tri Health Clinic. There is hope for you, too.
“I want to last longer”
Premature ejaculation is one of the most common sexual complaints for men. Climaxing too soon can be really frustrating. Many people may not realize that the cut-off for a diagnosis of “premature ejaculation” is 60 seconds; anything longer than that is considered completely normal. However, being upset about reaching orgasm too soon can be a serious problem, regardless of how long you actually last. There are proven techniques to last longer for men with premature ejaculation, and there are techniques to enjoy sex more, regardless of how long you can last.
SEX AND ILLNESS
“My body just isn’t working the way it did before I got sick…”
One of the biggest unspoken challenges of illness is the impact it has on a person’s sexuality, or a coupe’s intimacy. Illness brings many barriers to a fulfilling sex life, including changes to the body, fatigue, pain, medical or surgical side effects, or even changes to a couple’s dynamics. Dr. Bossio spent years working with prostate cancer survivors and their partners, developing treatments to help improve their intimate lives after the devastating effects of cancer treatments. Working with individuals and couples trying to maintain intimacy in the face of illness is one of Dr. Bossio’s passions.
PROBLEMS REACHING ORGASM
“I just can’t orgasm! I feel like my body is broken!”
Sometimes it feels like the whole “goal” of sex is to reach orgasm, so if we don’t easily hit that target, we can feel like a failure. Having difficulty reaching orgasm does not mean that there is something wrong with you, your body, or your relationship. There are many factors that can get in the way of men and women reaching orgasm, and usually it is due to a combination of physical, mental, and relational factors. Becoming orgasmic is possible, and sex therapy can help.
“It feels like we’re just roommates at this point”
Frequently couples will come see us at a point in their relationships where sex and intimacy have stopped altogether. Although a couple may love each other very much, they may experience a time where “the spark is just gone”. It is important to know that there are proven ways to improve intimacy, even when it has been long absent. It’s never too late. For many couples, seeking professional help for a sexless relationship can open the doors to a whole new world of intimacy that they didn’t even think possible. This works best when both members of the relationship come to session. It can be possible to bring intimacy back into a sexless relationship if only one member comes to treatment, but it will likely be more challenging and it may take longer.
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“I want to want it, but I just don’t”
Up to 40% of women experience low sex drive, lack of sexual desire, or reduced sexual arousal. This is–by far–one of the biggest barriers to women having a fulfilling sex life. Low libido is also the most common sexual problem for men, too (but much less discussed). Low sex drive can lead to problems in the relationship. For single folks, a low sex drive may be a barrier to dating.
Having a low sex drive may not be a problem for some people, but there is help available when it is a problem. In my experience, many people who have a low sex drive often wish their sex drive was a bit higher; they tell me “I want to want sex with my partner, I just don’t”. Not craving sex does not mean that you are “sexually broken” or “just not a sexual person”, and it doesn’t mean that “there is something wrong with my relationship”. It is a common – albeit sometimes unpleasant – human experience. There are very effective treatments to increase sexual desire and enjoyment that don’t involve medication at all.
“My issue isn’t listed here”
Sexuality and sexual health are complicated! If the issue that you are dealing with isn’t listed here, not to worry. Contact us today to give us a picture of what you want help with. If we can’t help, we will try to help connect you to someone who will.
TRI HEALTH CLINIC
Contact us today to book a complimentary consultation with our Intake Coordinator to match you to the best therapist for your needs.
We provide sex therapy and couple’s therapy to all of Ontario, including Windsor, London, Guelph, Waterloo, Kitchener, Hamilton, St. Catherines, Niagara, Milton, Brantford, Burlington, Oakville, Mississauga, Brampton, Toronto, Vaughan, Barrie, Richmond Hill, Peterborough, Markham, Oshawa, Brockville, Belleville, Kingston, Ottawa, Cornwall, Thunder Bay, Sudbury, Sarnia, etc.
Suite 414, 797 Princess Street, Kingston ON
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Monday – Friday 9am-5pm
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