HOW MUCH DOES IT COST? – FEES
My fee is $200 per session. I accept payment by cash, cheque, or e-transfer. Payment is due at the time of the appointment. A receipt will be issued once payment is received.
At this time, OHIP (Ontario) or MSP (BC) do not offer universal coverage of mental health care. We hope this will change soon. However, services by a registered clinical psychologist are frequently covered by benefits and private insurance providers, up to a yearly maximum. Please check with your insurance provider to determine if you have coverage and clarify the process of reimbursement, as I do not offer direct billing. I will provide you with a receipt at the end of each session that has the information required by most insurance providers.
SEXUAL DIFFICULTY IS A PROBLEM WITH MY BODY. WHY NOT JUST USE MEDICATION?
While medication is an option for some sexual difficulties (like ED, premature ejaculation, genital pain), we know that it’s not a “magic cure”. Either people become overly reliant on the medication (e.g., can only get an erection with Viagra, which is expensive!), it stops working after a while, or they simply stop using it. And for many sexual issues (like low sex drive) there are no medical options!
What we know of sexual difficulties is that a happy, healthy sex life requires a balance of the 3 pillars of health: the body, mind, and relationships. Treatments work best when they consider all 3 pillars.
In short, problems for sexual difficulties tend to work best when a psychologist is involved.
SEX IS HARD TO TALK ABOUT. HOW DO I KNOW YOU WON’T JUDGE ME?
Sex is a funny thing in that it’s everywhere (all over the media, movies, internet), and yet it’s rare to have frank, honest conversations about our sex lives with others. Without practice talking about sex, it can be hard to talk about… at first. But it gets easier with practice.
Know that I have been working in the field of sexual health for a very long time; there aren’t many things that can shock me at this point. I do my best to create a safe, non-judgmental environment to talk about this difficult—but very important—topic.
I’M NOT READY YET
Many people may not realize that one of the most important parts of therapy is timing. It’s not always the right time to get started. Therapy can be hard work.
If you know you want to make a change but aren’t sure if you are ready to start, there are options. You may want to explore this website to learn more. Or you may want to set up a free 15 minute consultation phone call with me to determine whether it’s the right time.
Whenever you’re ready, I’m here.
I’M READY TO START. NOW WHAT?
When you are ready to make changes towards living your best life, contact me. We will start with a free 15-minute consultation over the phone. In this phone call, I will tell you a little more about what you can expect from working with me. I will also ask you to give me brief idea of what brings you to therapy; this is to make sure that I would be a good fit for your needs. If you agree, we will book our first appointment. If I am not the right fit, I may have some resources to help you find the help you need.
WHAT CAN I EXPECT FOR THE FIRST SESSION?
All sessions are 50 minutes with 10 minutes for charting (as is standard for the profession of psychology). In the first session, you can expect to go over some paperwork (like the consent form, some brief questionnaires). I will want to hear your story and what brings you to therapy – this may take 1 to 2 sessions. Together, we will develop goals (so we know what to focus on in therapy) and a treatment plan (so we know how to meet your goals).
WHAT CAN I EXPECT FOR THE REST OF THE SESSIONS?
While treatment can look different for everyone based on their goals, needs, and history, sessions will typically follow a similar format. Before session, I will ask you to complete a short questionnaire so we can track your progress. We will start the sessions by getting the housekeeping out of the way. Then, we will set an agenda to make sure we make the best use of our time together.
Sessions usually involve some mix of discussing the time since last session, education, and potentially learning new skills or adapting existing skills. As you progress in therapy, sessions tend to shift away from “learning” towards “trouble shooting”.
For many people, they choose to space sessions out further and further until they feel ready to fire me. Oftentimes, we begin with weekly sessions and move to a few times a month with longer spaces between sessions. It is not uncommon for people to check in months or even years down the line for “booster sessions” as needed. We will work together to determine a schedule that works best for your needs and your schedule.
WHAT DO I NEED TO KNOW ABOUT ONLINE THERAPY?
In order to best serve you, I offer online therapy. Online therapy requires reliable access to Internet and the simple installation of a program on your computer, tablet, or phone. We will arrange a check-in prior to your appointment to ensure all technology is working seamlessly. I have chosen a program with privacy of your personal health information in mind. Audio/video communication is securely encrypted and information is stored securely.
You need to live in either Ontario or BC to be eligible for online therapy with me.
At this time, online therapy is reserved for sex therapy services. If you are looking for mental wellness services, sessions will be available at my Kingston office.
HOW DO I GET THE MOST OUT OF THERAPY?
You’ve already started by reading this!
The more you put into therapy, the more you get out of it. Be curious. Be open. Don’t just tell me what you think I want to hear; be yourself. Ask questions. Come to sessions and do the practice between sessions. It is important to know that long-term changes don’t happen in session… they happen between sessions.
Another way to maximize your therapy experience is to let me know if you are ever feeling stuck, like treatment is getting off track, or if your goals have changed. We will problem solve together.
HOW LONG WILL THIS TAKE?
As much as I would love to have an answer for this question, I can’t say how long therapy will take. It depends on so many factors, such as your history, your current situation, how long the issue has been going on for, how frequently we decide to meet, how much time you have to dedicate to practicing the skills introduced in session, and so on.
For some people, they see improvement in just a few sessions (sort of like a booster shot!). For others, it takes longer. In less common cases, therapy can go on for a long time (whether its because we have a lot to work through, or because the client chooses to do more depth work).
DOESN'T THERAPY MEAN I’M WEAK?
NOPE. It takes a huge amount of strength to reach out in a time of need. Therapy doesn’t mean you’re weak, it means you’re strong.
THIS IS PRIVATE, RIGHT? – CONFIDENTIALITY
Everything we discuss in session is strictly private and confidential and will not be revealed to anyone.
The only thing that takes precedence over privacy is safety of yourself and others. Thus, there are a few instances where the law has placed limits on the confidential nature of psychological services. For example, I am legally obligated to report if I learn that you are at risk to yourself or others, or if a child is at risk. There are a few other exceptions, which I will share with you at the first session. These exceptions vary slightly, depending on whether you are in Ontario or BC.